Bullies Then and Now
Monday, October 3rd, 2011I was fortunate not to be the target of bullies when I was in school back in the 50′s and 60′s. Nor do I recall being a bully to others. But I can vividly remember one day on the playground as a ten-year old when I joined others to taunt one unpopular boy. We were playing dodge-ball and making fun of the boy’s lack of athleticism. The thing I remember most was how easy it was to side with the bullies and not defend Phillip from their abuse. That memory comes back to me periodically, made even more poignant given what we now know about bullying prevention. I was a bystander. I allowed the bullying to occur. In fact, I actively engaged in the bullying even though I knew it was wrong. I also remember the teacher watching our bad behavior and never intervening. Somehow, by her inactivity, she seemed to be condoning it. At the time, and ever since, I have always wondered why she allowed us to tease Phillip on that playground. The conclusion I arrived at that day was the boy somehow deserved our derision. Why else did the teacher allow us to continue our taunting for close to 20-minutes in full view?
Almost fifty years later I am one of many educators trying to combat bullying behavior in our schools. And I am learning what my ten-year old gut told me back in 1962. Students who witness bullying behavior need to stand-up and intervene. Telling an adult is a good start. But that brave step by a youngster will reap no benefit unless the teacher/principal/parent take appropriate measures. None of us can afford to simply stand-by or turn our heads away from the abuse.
In our three school buildings here in Gowanda we have started to implement the requirements of the “Dignity for All Students Act.” The first step is to recognize that bullying is a problem in our schools. We have chosen to experiment with three distinct approaches. In the Elementary School we have rejuvenated the “Character Counts” program. This is a developmentally approriate approach that teaches our students the golden rule; treat others as you would like to be treated. In the High School we are implementing PBIS which stands for “Positive Behavior Intervention Supports.” PBIS is a school-wide approach that recognizes the level of maturity inherent in young adults. It stresses tolerance, dignity, respect and acceptance. The program reinforces the positive in all aspects of High School interaction.
As most of us know from experience, negative peer pressure and bullying become most severe during the middle school years – ages 11 thru 14. For this reason, in our Middle School we are pursuing a novel approach to anti-bullying called the Olweus program. It is while participating in the initial staff training exercises that I thought back to that playground incident in 1962. The cornerstone of the Olweus program is the recognition that one of the keys to prevention is for student bystanders to speak up and intervene. Olweus also tries to give all staff members the tools to recognize bullying and consistently employ prevention methods.
Essentially, we need to change the culture in our schools. Marginalize the bullies. Make bullying uncool. Students who are bullied deserve better. The same could be said for Phillip on that playground in 1962. I should have spoken up. It would have been the right thing to do then – and it is the right thing to do now.
















